What is it Like to Be a Single Mom?
Whether you are recently divorced and will have custody of your children or are expecting and do not expect any support from the child’s father, taking care of your little ones all by yourself as a single mother can sometimes get a little tricky. However, if you plan for what is to come, you can ease the burden that you will end up bearing, so to help you transition into being a single mother, here is a guide on what to expect.
There will be a lot of expenses.
Raising a child is not cheap by any means. In fact, it has been determined that it costs about $300,000 to raise a child through the age of 18. When two parents take on this expense, it is a manageable number. But when a single mom takes on this expense, this number is pretty overwhelming. There are all sorts of things that you will have to pay for as you raise your children, from diapers when they are infants, to school supplies and clothes when they are old enough to go to school, not to mention medical expenses when they get sick and other incidentals like fun money for the mall when they are teenagers. Provided that there are so many expenses, it is imperative that you stay on the ball with your finances as a single mom, and if that means taking on an extra job to pay for things, then do it because you do not want to have to live from paycheck to paycheck.
You will need to rely on yourself.
As a single mom, you need to immediately realize that you are the go-to person for your family and no one else. This means that you are going to have to take care of everything that goes on in your life without relying on anyone else. For example, if there is an emergency, like maybe your child has a fever and needs to go to the doctor, you need to take off from work and get your child to the doctor. It is just something you will need to do, so be ready for it.
You might become overwhelmed at times.
Since you are raising a child all by yourself, one thing that you really need to expect is that you will become overwhelmed at times. You will feel like there are too many things to do and that you are being pulled in too many directions. This is normal, and if you simply take a step back, breathe, and go about what you need to do in an organized manner, you will be able to get through it.
There is help available.
Even though you have to rely on yourself as a single mom, there is help available to take advantage of to make things easier. For example, there are governmental agencies that can help subsidize your living expenses to pay for food or your housing. There are also non-profit agencies that can provide you with free childcare or assist in paying for child care. And there are multiple support groups you can attend where you can receive advice about your situation or simply use other moms as a sounding board if you need to talk. To get this help, turn to your local agencies and call them for support.
It will eventually get easier.
Ultimately, one thing to keep in mind is that as a single mom, things will eventually get easier. and you will find that you will be able to handle any situation that comes your way. For that reason, you need to stay the course and always keep a positive attitude.