Moms Leaving an Abusive Relationship

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Abuse is not something that anyone should have to live with, but an abusive relationship is often very difficult to leave and get out of.  Children in the midst of this situation is even more sad and volatile, which makes it even worse.  A mom’s first instinct is to protect her children, but she also has to remember that she needs to take care of herself so that she can care for her children.  Her first responsibility is to get herself and her children out of the abusive relationship to ensure that everyone is safe and happy.

Realize that there is a problem:

Many women who have been in an abusive relationship for years have lost their will for change and taking action. Finding your own self-respect and realizing that you are in a bad relationship that is damaging to you and your children is the first step. This one is a mental process, but once you get to this point, you are ready to take action.


Now is the time to leave your abusive partner. While you may feel as if you have nowhere to go, it is still best for you to take your children and leave. Ask friends or family members for help or if this is not possible, contact a battered women’s shelter or organization. If you are afraid of your partner coming after you, an organization that deals with battered and abused women and families may be your best choice, as they are experienced in dealing with this situation.

Call the police:

Don’t be afraid to report it to the police. This is a way to protect yourself and your kids. Abuse is against the law and if you are being abused, your partner needs to answer for that. By reporting it to the police, you are getting it on record for the future and helping to protect your children and yourself.

Counseling should be considered:

Abuse can cause many different feelings for the one abused, but it can also have a big effect upon the children, even if they have not been abused. Professional counseling can help you to deal with all of your emotions and help you with more personal needs and decisions. In addition, they can listen to your children and help them to deal with the situation that they are going through.

Abuse is not to be tolerated, whether it is physical or mental abuse. While many moms may feel as if they have no choice, this is not true. Respect yourself and take care of your children by leaving the abusive relationship and getting the help that you need. No one should have to live in a home where abuse is a normal part of life. By talking about it with your family and friends, as well as getting help from a battered women’s organization or shelter, you can finally leave the relationship and begin living a life that is safe for you and your children.

1 Response

  1. Elizabeth says:

    I am a single mother of three in the process of getting divorce. I live with my parents and heres where the abuse begins for me. I am constenly verbally abuse by my parents and now they are demanding I give them custody of my kids to make matter worse they tell my kids i am a bad mother and don’t love them. I clean and cook at home watch my kids all the time but its at the point to where i am scare to go home because i fear this is going to esculated into physical abuse. My only family that supports me is in mexico but i have lived my whole life here and even if i left i don’t have the money to move with my kids down to mexico city. I am lost don’t know what else to do help!!!!!!!!!!

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