Let’s face it, when a mom talks to her son about certain topics, like the birds and the bees, it can be a bit of a difficult situation for both the mom and her son. The thing is, even though it is a difficult situation, it is still something the mom has to do when there is no father figure in the picture. With that said, if you’re a single mom who finds yourself in this situation, you need to take charge, and to help you do that, here are some tips on how you can explain what puberty is all about to your son.
Do your research.
This is a really important tip because before you go into the conversation that you will have with your son, you want to make sure that you know exactly what you are talking about. If you do not know exactly what you are talking about, then you are going to end up looking silly in front of your son, and that is not a good thing since he will then lose respect for you. For that reason, you need to really read up on the subject, and to do so, you can either do your research online by going to WebMD or some other respectable site. You could also go to the library and check out the various books on the subject, or you could even ask your doctor for some information on what to go over with your child.
Be open, honest, and not too blunt.
Once you have done your research on the topic, then the next tip that you should follow is to have an upfront, honest conversation with your son. Make sure that you do not hold anything back during this conversation, however, at the same time you do not want to be too blunt. So you really need to temper what you say and say it in a way that is not intimidating or forceful. Simply provide your son with the information in a conversational type of matter instead of lecturing, given that if it comes off as a lecture, he will probably tune you out and not get anything out of it.
Allow for questions.
After you talk to your son about what he should expect during puberty, then allow him to ask you questions about what he heard. If he does not have any questions, then you need to ask him questions to ensure that he understands what he will experience. If he still does not have any questions, then let him know that if he does come up with some, to ask you about them. Also assure him that if you do not know the answer you will find it for him.
Make sure to revisit the topic.
The final tip to follow when talking to your son about puberty is to revisit the topic with him after you have your initial conversation. This will give him another opportunity to ask questions and you the chance to reinforce what you have already said.
When all is said and done, if you follow these tips, you should make things easier on yourself as a single mother when talking to your son about puberty. As you can see, there is a fine line that you have to follow, and if you are able to do so, the situation will not be an awkward one at all.