Helping Highly Emotional Children
Every child is different and if you have more than one, you are sure to understand that much more than parents of single children do. One may be more easy going, while one may be a bit more high maintenance. This is what makes us special and different, but learning to deal with these different personalities can allow you to parent each of them in the way that they need and you want. How do you deal with a highly emotional child?
A child who is very emotional has a life of major ups and downs. Parenting this child will feel as if you are riding a roller coaster blindfolded. You never know when they are up or when they are down. One thing that you do want to remember is that your children are special and no specific tips are going to apply to every child. You may have to continually be thinking and working with your child to find what works for you and what works for them.
One minute your child may be happy and the next minute your child may be crying and inconsolable. This is part of living with a highly emotional child. It takes a lot of patience to deal with a child like this, but you can help them to “own” their feelings, so that they will not feel so out of control in their feelings and moods. By helping them to talk about what they are feeling, you can help them to deal with what they are feeling, rather than just being highly sensitive and emotional with no boundaries or restrictions.
While a child that is emotional means that you never know what to expect, you can learn how to deal with them and help them to become more balanced emotionally. Helping them to feel secure and safe is part of the process to giving them back their own emotional power. You don’t want them to feel as if they are not accepted for who they are. By giving them a safe place to vent and to deal with their emotions, you will make your bond stronger and aid you both in living a more full life and learning how to live with their feelings.
As far as dealing with others, you will have to work with your child to guide them in social situations that may or may not go their way or how they want them to. While you may not think that this is important, you want to give them tools, as a parent, to help them to live a full and complete life and this includes being able to live a normal life in school and beyond. This will mean that you need to expose them to different situations and help them to learn how to cope – even if things do not go like they want them to.
Helping emotional children can be overwhelming at times. It doesn’t have to be that way, however. By helping them to deal with their own feelings, you can empower them to live their lives without being tied down to how they feel and their emotions. This will take some effort from you, but it can be well worth it when you watch your child grow into an independent and balanced adult.