Getting Child Custody After Divorce
Divorce can be very stressful for both the concerned couple and their kids. There are so many different feelings that may engulf parents – anger, frustration, anxiety, and even a feeling of exhaustion. Children, on the other hand, may feel confused or emotionally affected by parents who divorce and engage in tug-of-war over the kids. No matter how emotionally spent (or in most cases financially drained) they may be, parents need to face certain issues, including child custody after divorce. Courts may weigh various factors and decide to give either joint or sole custody. Sole custody lets one parent be the primary caretaker, while giving the other parent child visitation rights after a thorough evaluation. Joint custody grants both parents authority to make major decisions pertaining to basic needs of the child, including education, medical care, and so on. Responsible divorced parents, of course, don’t require any court ruling to remind them of these child-related needs. The court may also ask kids who are old enough to decide with whom (mother or father) they want to live with what their wishes are. Besides this, the court will normally assess both parents’ background and financial capability to raise a child.
Getting child custody after divorce may or may not happen smoothly or as desired, especially if a parent has dubious character, has engaged in shady dealings, or has a personal history of engaging in destructive habits like alcoholism. On the other hand, if both parents are financially and emotionally capable to rear a child, and have both maintained a close, loving bond with the children, chances are high they may be granted joint custody. In cases when the home atmosphere is so tense that kids can really feel the power struggle of parents, the court will likely decide to grant child custody to the parent who can provide a less stressful home environment.
What well-meaning parents guard watch out for, even after they’ve decided to lead separated lives, is that their kids don’t end up traumatized by the impact of divorce. Hence, most estranged couples make the effort to maintain a civil relationship with and resolve conflicts with their ex-partners and work things out as amicably as possible.